When it the question of choosing your life partner, you
should make the proper decision. Whether or not your partner
is right for you is undoubtedly one of the most important
decisions of your life, since your entire future depends
on this. Sometimes you are just confused as to whether you
really love the person you are dating or it is mere attraction
and it is difficult to make a decision. You don't know how
can you be sure you have the picked the right one?
Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly
ask yourself why you love or are with your partner? You must
understand your heart and what it says. Does your heart beat
for your partner? Do you feel totally devastated when he is
not around? You should know the difference between love and
infatuation. When it is spending your whole life with a person
do not go in for a blind love. Don't build a relationship
upon fear, insecurity and pity. It will never last and will
only give unhappiness and sorrow. Remember that if there are
too many ifs, ands or buts in a relationship then sooner or
later the relationship is bound to fail.
So the question still remains, how do you
choose the right partner? Well following are a few tips that
will definitely help you understand love and help you make
the important decision as to choosing the right partner.
For a compatible relationship the couple should have common
interests. You have to have something in common with your
partner in order to be able to be with him and do things together.
Physically you might have great relations, but does that really
matter? When two people have different interests, one person
usually ends up sacrificing their desires for the other person
in order to live a happy life, or else or you end up living
completely separate lives. Therefore to avoid any future complications
and creating ego problems it is better to always analyze your
interests and desire and see whether they match.
It is also necessary to preserve your individuality and make
it clear that you too have a life and ambition. Though women
are supposed to stay at home and take care of kids and home
but if you are an ambitious kind of a person then always find
out whether your partner and in-laws are comfortable with
it. Are they willing to let you have that career you have
The next thing that you have to look out for is whether your
partner and your intellect match. It is very difficult to
communicate with a dull or insensitive person. Ask these questions
to yourself. When you talk to him, is he on the same level
as you? How long does it take him to answer your question?
Do you get bored because he answers everything else under
the sun rather than the question you asked him? Does he understand
you when you speak? Can you really talk to him about absolutely
anything? This may sound crazy but imagine living your entire
life with someone who doesn't understand you and who frustrates
you to no end by his speed of communication and just doesn't
get it when you are trying to explain something to him?
If you are a person who goes by principles and strictly follows
them and your partner has no principles then there is bound
to be problems in your relationship. You have to straighten
it out before plunging into marriage.