To Know When It's Over
Life is full of good and bad
things. Your relationship at one time must be great but
it can happen that at one point of time you think that hanging
on is not a very good idea. Breaking up must be a tough
decision but what you need to understand is if being in
a relationship brings sadness and complications it's always
better to move out of it. For some, the thought of losing
the relationship and losing the love that you craved so
much comes as a complete shock and for others, they are
prepared for it and take it in their stride.
Breakup signs are often very difficult to spot, primarily
because the people involved often do not want to admit that
the relationship has failed. And unless something comes along
and hits them in the face, telling them it's over; the natural
tendency is to try to work through the problems. This happens
more so when the couple have been together for a while that
giving in to problems in the relationship becomes next to
question that remains, therefore, is at what point do you
really know that it's over and that you should move on?
First lets start with
the glaring signs that the relationship is over:
- You catch your partner in the act of having an unforgivable
- Your partner uses physical violence against you.
- You argue non-stop about everything. You can't agree
The above are obvious, any of the three things
occurring above, especially number two, are sure signs that
the relationship is coming to an end.
There are however some other signs to look
out for. Sometimes it is necessary to accept the painful fact
that the relationship is just not good for you to hang on.
The most common instance of this is when
one partner is intentionally holding the other partner back.
When two people have separate dreams and goals, friction can
occur, especially if neither of them are willing to compromise.
In some instances, however, jealousy leads one of the partners's
to be excessively controlling of the other. In these situations,
if the problems get worse day by day, it is better to leave
Other reasons to leave
- You realize that you don't love your partner anymore.
- You find yourself thinking more and more about how good
single life was.
- There is more pain in the relationship than good.
- You are all the time depressed about the behavior of
- You realize that your partner doesn't love you, but
is with you because he/she doesn't want to hurt you.
- You have no common interests or goals.
- You find that you cannot stand their annoying habits,
and they won't change no matter how bad you want them
- You find it impossible to be yourself around your partner.
- You are always in bad moods and depressed.
- Your partner cuts you down, makes you feel bad about
- There is no independence/freedom in the relationship.
- Your partner is always suspecting you and questions