It is terrifying when you meet his parents for the first time
and it scares the hell out of every girl no matter how confident
and smart you are. You are tense and anticipate the worst
things. Questions like what if they don't like me and what
if my first impression is bad haunt you. Well here are a few
tips to get rid of those meet-the-parents-jitters and with
a little bit of elementary homework and your partner's help
you will come out with flying colours. Read on for an introduction
in making a great first impression.
Nisha, a housewife recollects the first time when she had
gone to meet her in-laws. She had not told them that she was
a vegetarian and so did her husband. So when she was offered
non-vegetarian food she could not find the courage to refuse
for she thought that she might offend them. So she had a little
bit and just hid the rest under the rice and hardly ate anything.
Her in-laws were offended and thought that she was not polite
and just wasted food. Her evening was a disaster. Although
it's natural to want to avoid offending your beau's parents
by accepting their offerings, don't go against your beliefs
or inclinations just to please them. Go ahead and be yourself,
letting them get to know the real you. Be strong to tell them
what you like and dislike and they will love you for that.
Take your boyfriend's help
In order to make a good impression you will have to take your
boyfriends help. Try to learn as much as you can about his
parents and other family members. Try to know what they like
and dislike. For example if they hate the extra earrings or
the tattoo that you had just got done on your arm then try
to keep it hidden so as to avoid having you in their bad books.
Try as much as possible to steer clear of any controversial
topic or any topic, which is very sensitive to them. Listen
more to them and their views instead of being insistent on
exposing your own. Thus all this will need your beau's help
and so express to your guy what you want to gain from this
experience and embrace the chance to get to know him better.
Be calm and poised
Remember one thing and that is not only you but your beau's
parents who are anxious too. After all you are the one who
stole their little boy's heart, isn't it? So be calm and don't
be nervous. While it's normal to want to be accepted and loved
by potential in-laws, but don't expect to hit off immediately
and be open to the fact that you may not "click". Instead
try to help them be at comfortable in your company, opening
the door for a warm encounter the next time you get together.
Quick Tips for Combating the Jitters
- Based on what your beau has told you
about his parents, their interests and hobbies, think of
some questions you might ask them. Talk about current events
and target their interests or careers. This will help you
get to know them better.
- Don't get nervous and stop talking.
This will make everyone uncomfortable. Tell them about your
work, your hobbies and family. Remember they too want to
know what type of a person you are.
- If you are too nervous then just excuse
yourself and go to the toilet and put yourself together.
- Before going to meet his parents just
give yourself a treat. Have a nice hot bath or go for a
swim or to the gym and you will feel more confident to face