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| "Love"
Or "Fleeting passion" |
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 You
are dating this guy for about 3 months now and every time
you two meet it leads to explosive fireworks. You are absolutely
charmed by his behaviour, style, smile, intelligence and
physique. You think of him every moment of the day. You
want to spend very moment of the day with him. At the beginning
of a "serious" relationship it's not uncommon
to neglect everybody-even your closest friends and family-in
favour of devoting all your time to your new love. In those
rare moments when you're not together, you're talking to
each other on the phone.
But as time passes by and your relationship becomes more
complex, you realize that you have to give in your best
shot and every relationship has its own set of duties, responsibilities
and commitments. Though you are willing to give in your
best but within a few months you see that there are a few
things about your partner which drives you absolutely crazy.
You probably noticed them all along, but at first everything
about your love made you smile; you just brushed aside the
small faults by telling yourself that love would get you
through anything. As time passes, however, you notice that
these small faults become bigger and bigger. And the problem
is your partner is not willing to change.
As the romance in your relationship starts to fade away,
you start to wonder whether or not the fires of love are
burning hot enough to keep your relationship going. You
wonder whether your relationship is based on "love"
or was it merely "fleeting passion". Here are
a few facts that might help you decide.
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Passion is the
first thing that will fade away and true love will prevail.
Passion is temporary in a relationship which lasts only
for a few years but its love that will last forever. Love
is a feeling that encompasses tenderness, compassion,
caring and devotion. But that also doesn't mean that there
will be no passion in your relationship. If you love your
partner there has to be passion and excitement in your
relationship.
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Love is based
on three important things; sexual attraction between the
partners, respect for each other and common dreams. When
you are in love you are physically and sexually attracted
to your mate and respect plays a major role to keep the
relationship going strong. Also two people who love each
other share the same dreams and goals.
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Difficult times
truly test your love and it is during these times that
you get a chance to come closer to your partner. These
difficult periods are healthy and useful when they allow
each partner to assert his or her expectations and needs
regarding the relationship. These difficult moments therefore
give the two lovers the chance to better know each other
and better let themselves be known. If you pass in this
test then your relationship will never suffer
Thus relationships
suffer when after the initial stages of passionate love couples
start to pull out of it because of certain differences between
them. When there is lack of understanding, patience and commitments
in a relationship it is bound to suffer the fate of break-up
and heart breaks. If relationships don't lasts just because
one partner is not ready to compromise then such a relationship
had a very weak foundation. Love is compromising, caring for
your partner and commitment. If these qualities are missing
then its just fleeting passion and is bound to be over within
a few months once the hunger for lust and desire is fulfilled.
After all hunger believes in variety and can never stick to
one flavour.
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