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I Love My Best Friend? |
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You know him since a long
time. You are the best of friends and you share all the
good and bad times together. You confide in him and you
share with him all your secrets. He is always there for
you when you need him. And then one day you realize that
this is it…..he is the one for whom you have waited
so long. He knows and understands you…..he is there
for you when you need him and he makes you smile.
You tell yourself that you love him and you are meant
to be with him. But you are scared…..you hesitate because
you think you will lose him if he comes to know that you
love him Letting your interest be known can either break
or make the relationship. The last thing you want is to
reveal your feelings and lose a good friend. But you love
him so much that you can't keep it to yourself and you want
something a little more than platonic relationship.
Well
if you think that you love your best friend and you are hesitant
then try using these ideas to let him know.
Spend more intimate time together: So far you must
be going out just as friends but now make it a point to go
out alone with him. Arrange to spend more intimate time with
your friend than usual. Go to see a movie together. This way
he will get to know you as a person. And before you know it
he also might realize that he loves you very much. And if
he already has been secretly loving you, then this will give
the two of you ample opportunity to tell your feelings to
each other.
Be frank: One
thing that is dangerous when you are in love is to hide your
feelings completely. Be frank and give him hints that you
have feelings for him and you think he is much more than just
a friend to you. Approach your friend with the idea of dating
each other. If you're both looking for someone, and your both
already like each other as friends, than chances are you may
make a great couple. But you have to take the first step and
break the ice.
However consider the following points
when you decide to disclose it to your friend that you love
him and you want to become more than just friends.
- Don't try to break up his relationship with someone
else just because you love him and you want to be with
him. You have to keep your feelings within yourself and
disclose it to him only when he is available and the timing
is right for you.
- Don't break up with your boyfriend just because
you think that you love your best friend. It will be unfair
to your present boyfriend. If you are not comfortable
in the relationship and its infact torturing then you
can break up but don't break up just because you all of
a sudden feel that your friend is the man you have been
waiting for so long.
- Don't misunderstand you feeling to be with him
as love. All you know you just might be jealous and possessive
and you cant bear to see him with someone else. Giving
into the jealousy can cause more of a separation than
the closeness you may actually desire. Allow yourself
some space from your friend to understand your true feelings
for him.
- Don't pursue your desire to make him love you
if you feel that he treats you just like a friend and
nothing more than that. Remember you can't make a relationship
happen, or work, with one-sided affection. Thus cherish
your friendship coz a true friend is more valuable than
anything you can find.
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