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 Are
you one of those who keep dating men but never got a chance
to start a relationship? You keep seeing men one after another
but your date has never called you back. Are you one of
those who has a very successful career, a dignified post
and reputation and financial stability. If that is the case
then we know exactly what your problem is?
Consider this: You go out on a date with a guy
who is not as rich as you. Sub consciously you flaunt your
status, and this not many people actually like. Therefore
on your date you either "intimidate" men or you
make them dislike you because of your "snooty"
attitude.
What you need
to do: In order to win a date you need to do
a "market research" by getting some very candid
feedback from three men and three women about you as a person
and your personal style. Be sure to select these people
(friends, family, colleagues) for their honesty. If there
are consistent issues that arise with the feedback, take
them to heart and make some changes.
Do I intimidate
men: You may very well intimidate men with your
achievements and status, and this is a common problem. Well
if you do then here are a few suggestions.
- Try to ease men into seeing that you are a strong
career oriented person.
- Play down your wardrobe and don't go on your first
date "dress for success" with executive suits,
expensive jewelry, or flashy clothing and accessories
that reinforce your monetary status.
- If you live in a more expensive home than he does,
don't invite him over until your relationship is more
secure.
- Don't let your conversation focus heavily on your
accomplishments at work. Rather, focus on mutual interests
such as family, films, books or pets (not items that
signify success, such as expensive vacations).
- Dont go declaring that you hold a hotshot post or
you are a chairperson or president of a big multi-national
company. You can simply tell him that you work in so-and-so
company.
Eventually, if you establish strong feelings
for each other, your success should not deter him, and you
can say or wear whatever you want. But in the beginning,
just focus on getting to know each other better.
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