to you makes a relationship last a lifetime? Is it only love
and understanding. Well it takes lot more than that to make
a relationship work. And one of the most important aspect
of it is the ability to forgive your partner. It takes a lot
of courage to forgive and one who learns to forgive learns
to love and make a relationship work. It is said "To err is
human and to forgive is divine". How true it is. For only
forgiveness can make you understand what love really is.
When you forgive you do it for you, not for the other. Forgiveness
is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do
for someone else. But it is something you do for yourself
and in a way you give yourself peace of mind and it makes
you a good person. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the
anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own
life miserable. There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven.
So don't hold on to the anger and resentment but let go of
it and you will be much happier in life.
Healthy love relationship is not possible without forgiveness!
If you have been hurt in your love relationship then it is
not possible to enter into fresh relationships unless you
have learnt to forgive. You cannot have a loving and rewarding
relationship with anyone else, much less yourself, if you
continue to hold on to things that happened in the past. Regardless
of the situation, making peace with past love partners, your
parents, children, your boss or anyone who you think may have
"done you wrong" is the only way to improve your chances of
a "healthy" relationship with yourself or anyone else for
that matter! It is not possible to truly be present and available
to a new relationship until you heal the hurt and upsets of
the past. You can never live in the present and create a new
and exciting future for yourself and your love partner if
you always stay stuck in the past. Remember there is no future
in the past and all the love awaits you in the future.
Forgive and forget is a myth. You may never forget but you
can choose to forgive and move on. With time the hurt and
the pain will fade. Forgiveness cleanses your system of the
poison that will surely worsen and cause sufferings and continued
misery if not released. Don't poison your mind with resentment
and anger. You cannot take the poison and expect someone else
to die. Those who have wronged you will go on with their life
and you will be the only one to continue to suffer. So learn
to forgive and move on with your life. Remember you deserve
to be happy.