What does every relationship demand? I always used to wonder could
one have a relationship where there is no commitment, no responsibilities,
no expectations and above all total freedom. This sounds impossible
and inconceivable. First let us understand what relationship is.
The dictionary meaning of this word is -connection or association-----emotional/sexual
association between two people. Is that it?is that all what relationship
is. The answer is no. Relationship between two people, be it between
father/mother-daughter/son, between brother-sister, between friends,
between teacher-student, between employer-employee, between husband-wife
or between lovers is based on trust and honesty. Every relationship
mentioned above is very delicate and has to be nurtured with lot
of love, care and compassion.
In every relationship one cannot take the other person for granted.
Respect and faith in each other is an important factor. At the same
time understanding one another is most important. But at the same
time there has to be some space in every relationship. Our parents
expect only one thing from us and that is -sincerity and hard work.
They toil hard all their life to educate us and to help us reach
a position of which they can be proud. In this relationship there
is no commitment but yes there is responsibilities and expectations,
which are totally selfless and godly. They take our responsibilities
as long as we are not capable of taking our own responsibilities
and they expect absolutely nothing from us in return but only our
support and cooperation in making their dream come true.
The relationship between brother-sisters is very sweet. A child
first becomes friends with his elder brother/sister. In this relationship
you will find selfless love and caring for one another. The elder
one will take the responsibility of the younger and will guard him
and protect him from every danger. It is a very beautiful bonding.
This relationship also has to be nurtured with love, trust and understanding.
The role of your brother/sister in your life is very important and
one must always be thankful about it. You never know in how many
different ways your brother/sister help you but a person has to
attribute some part of his success, fame, status etc to his brother/sister.
Because they were always there for you and always made you feel
important and helped you through in your difficult times by extending
their full support. This relationship is very unique and helps shape
a person's life and carrier.
About friendship what do I say? Friends are like diamond, costly
and rare. Now the word costly has nothing to do with money. Friendship
is costly because you cannot afford losing it and you have to work
real hard to earn it. True friends are very hard to find and once
you have it you have to be real careful not to lose it. Now this
relationship is totally based on understanding and trust. Friendship
is in a way the foundation of every relationship. One can easily
confide in a friend and tell a friend all his secrets. It is said,
"a man is known by the company he keeps". This saying is very true
for if you are in a good company and amongst good friends you will
surely succeed in life. Thus friendship is such a relationship wherein
commitment plays a major role. And friends are there in your life
forever without any expectations or responsibilities. A man is lucky
if he has a good friend and luckier if he knows how to maintain
and nourish this precious gift.
Relationship between teacher-student is based on respect, honesty,
trust and understanding. There is a lot of commitment and responsibilities
in this relationship. They say that your teacher or Guru is next
to God and a Guru's position is higher than your parents. Relationship
between employer-employees is also based on trust, honesty and respect
for one another. To make this relationship work and to gain optimum
progress in work an employer must treat the employees with respect
and should be their friend rather than their boss. This relationship
demands total commitment, expectations are high and regarding responsibilities,
sky is the limit.
Relationship between husband-wife is the most intricate and complex
relationship of all. It involves a lot of understanding, lot of
maturity and commitment, lot of trust and honesty, lot of sensitivity
and humor and last but not the least lot of love and passion. Here
commitment is the key word. To keep this relationship working one
has to give lot of sacrifices. Once you tie the knot you have entered
into such a strong bonding that demands lot of caring and attention.
A marriage works only if both the spouses are mature and mellow
and understand each other completely. Marriage is not just physical
binding but it is a binding of two souls who want to spend their
entire life in the company of one another. Here there is lot of
responsibilities and expectations and one has to work hard to fulfill
every need that the relationship demands. It is said, " marriages
are made in heaven " which is not really true according to me. Marriages
are very much made on earth by us, by our choice and it is for us
to make it work. So one cant really blame destiny or God for all
the failures. It is you who must have erred somewhere and it is
for you to rectify the mistake.
Relationship between lovers is totally carefree and it's like a
fantasy. Here one sometimes starts off in a casual manner, not really
serious, might be just fooling around and sometimes such relationship
culminate into marriage and sometimes they don't. But what is sweet
about this relationship is that you are in love and though it might
not work out, then also it makes you feel good and wanted. To make
such relationship work one should be patient and understanding and
should make the right choice, for it is a big step that a person
takes and a proper relationship makes your life worth living while
a bad one ruins your life. So one cannot afford love being blind.
Thus we can see that all relationships demand commitment, responsibilities,
expectations, understanding and love. It is for us to understand
our responsibilities and understand what we should give before expecting
anything in return. It is for us to understand the intricacies of
each relationship and try to solve every problem with utmost care
and caution so that there remains no scar and bitterness. Thus relationship
works like Newton's 3rd law----To every action there is always an
equal and opposite reaction. For every gesture of love and kindness
one will get in return only love and kindness. Thus to make any
relationship work all you have to do is know yourself, know your
vices and learn to admit your mistakes and improve yourself. Do
not find fault in your partner or the other person----always try
to find out where the problem lies and wipe it out from the root.
Learn to say sorry and accept your mistake. Learn to forgive and
forget and I assure you, you will never face any problem in your