Relationships: The reason behind it
men and women often get involved in relationships that end
up in heart-breaks. They find themselves getting involved
with the "wrong" kind of partner all the time.
This leaves them frustrated, angry and unhappy with a negative
feeling. They either stop believing in themselves or they
invariably get involved with the wrong partner again. Have
you thought what the reason behind it is?
The reason is very simple yet we tend to
over look it. The reason why we fall into loops of getting
involved in bad relationships is that we don’t look
for early warning signs that signal us to get away. When we
get involved in a relationship we always tend to overlook
the traits and bad habits thinking that we can fix that later.
Well that is where we go wrong and that leads to unhealthy
The only way to avoid repeating getting heart
broken is to be able to recognize the adverse signs early
on. The earlier you see the signs, the easier it is to avoid
getting hurt emotionally. If you want to have a healthy relationship,
you will have to learn to be attracted to a different type
of person. Your conversations and meetings with the person
you are attracted to should not end up in bed but try to get
to know the person better. Talk talk and talk and learn more
about him. Your date should have a more meaningful purpose
and that your conversations should take on a purpose of screening
for unwanted traits.
Well it may seem a bit difficult because
when if the man you are dating is attractive then, it's easy
to get lost in his voice, eyes, touch, and so on. Before you
know it, the conversation meanders without a focus and you
have no idea if he shares similar bad traits as your ex. Therefore
don’t get carried away. You can set your goal to unveil
the man's "crucial topics" (issues that broke your
previous relationship(s)). For instance, if your ex was an
alcoholic, keep an eye out for how much he drinks and how
important alcohol is in his life. The key is to be casual
and not make it sound like you're interrogating him. Keep
in mind that he will have no idea what you are thinking, only
that you are having light conversation.