training for parents is taken as the biggest goal especially
if you are new parents. Some kids pick up toilet training
within few weeks while for some it takes months. Thus it is
advisable that before you begin toilet training you should
know the essential basics, the do and don’ts and the
easy tips to toilet training.
When to start
most important question that parents face is when to start
toilet training. Most children today are not toilet trained
until they are at least 2½ years old. Some don’t
start off until they have crossed their third birthday. Thus
don’t fret if your child is not toilet trained even
if he has crossed 3 years. Age is not that important what
you need to find out is whether your child is ready to be
toilet trained. It is advisable that parents waited until
their children showed certain signs of developmental readiness.
This will make toilet training easy, with fewer conflicts
and frustrations for both parents and children.
Your child may be ready to start toilet training if he:
Has regular, soft, formed bowel movements, at predictable
Can pull his pants up and down.
Is learning to dress and undress himself and tries to
do things without help.
Imitates others bathroom habits (likes to watch you go
to the bathroom, wants to wear underwear, etc.).
Is stopping briefly during play to urinate or have a bowel
movement. This tells you that your child is becoming aware
of his body's signals that it's time to go.
Makes a physical demonstration when he's having a bowel
movement (grunting, squatting, telling you, etc.).
Has words for stool and urine.
Can follow simple instructions ("Go get the toy,"
Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go
to the toilet and can tell you before it happens.
Dislikes the feeling of being in a dirty diaper.
Has "dry" periods of at least three or four
hours (this shows his bladder muscles are developed enough
to hold his urine in and store it).
Can walk and sit down
Is able to sit still on a small chair for three to five
minutes while you read or talk to him.
Once you have assessed your child’s readiness and you
think that he is ready to be toilet trained now it is time
to prepare yourself with the right equipments. Choose and
buy a child-sized potty or a special seat to attach to your
regular toilet. Whichever you choose, make sure your child
is comfortable on it and can stabilize himself with his feet
so he can push when he's having a bowel movement.
To make him comfortable and get used to the potty make him
sit on the potty seat fully clothed once a day — after
breakfast, before his bath, or whenever else he's likely to
have a bowel movement (BM). If he doesn’t want to sit
then don’t force him. If you think that he seems scared
then put it away and bring it out again after a few weeks.
This routine is to just make him get used to the potty seat
therefore you don’t even have to explain to him why
he has to poop or pee in the potty.
After you think that he is comfortable sitting on the potty
seat without any resistance whatsoever, then try it without
the diaper. Again, let him get used to what it feels like
to sit there this way. Now is the time when you can start
explaining to him that this is what Mommy and Daddy do every
day. If he understands and does poop or pee in the potty then
its excellent but if he doesn’t then don’t force
him. Explain the whole process to him slowly. Show your child
where his bowel movements go. The next time when he does it
in the diaper, take him to his potty, sit him down, and empty
the diaper beneath him into the bowl. This will help him understand
that the poop or pee has to go in the potty. After you've
emptied his potty into the big toilet, let him flush if he
wants to (but don't make him do it if he's scared) so he can
see where it goes. Teach him to dress himself and wash his
hands when he's done.
If he has got the idea then you have to encourage him to use
the potty whenever he feels the urge to go. Also make sure
that he can signal you or tell you when he need to use the
potty. Also it is time that you introduce training pants —
extra-thick cloth or disposable ones — to your routine.
While they're less convenient, many parents say the cloth
ones work better because your child can really feel it when
he pees or poops in them. Introduce them gradually, probably
for a few hours at a time and stick with diapers at night
for the time being.
When your child seems mostly trained, you can move on to "big
kid" underwear. During the training period you will face
several accidents. Don’t punish or scold your child
for that. Remember that even if he has mastered using the
potty during the day time it will take longer to master it
at night. Therefore you can continue using diapers at night.
If he refuses to wear diapers at night, put a plastic sheet
under the cloth ones to minimize your cleanup after accidents.
You can help cut down on wet nights by not letting him drink
too much before bedtime and telling him that if he does wake
up in the middle of the night he can call you to help him
get to the potty. Keep his potty near the bed in case he wants
to use it.
Make sure your child is ready.
Prepare yourself. Decide when and how you want to start
training. Get the required equipments. Also prepare yourself
for the accidents, and ways to keep your child motivated
throughout the entire process.
Take it slow and be patient with your child.
Take your doctor’s advice.
Praise your child and encourage him. Celebrate with him
when he first gets something into the potty and reward
him with plenty of fanfare the first time he stays dry
Be patient when your child has accidents. When he make
a mess, calmly clean it up and get him into dry clothing.
Start at the wrong time. Beginning right before a new
baby is due, just after you've moved into a new home,
or when anything is disrupting your child's life will
only make potty training more difficult.
Put on the pressure. Don’t be hard on him and don’t
push him to perform. Let your child take his time to get
used to this new, complicated process.
your child. You have to be supportive and punishing him
will only spoil the whole routine.