tantrums-just the thought of one is enough to make you cringe
and wince. It can bring out the worst in all of us and it
is always difficult to handle. Most parents agree that there
is nothing quite like dealing with a kicking, screaming child.
Though temper tantrums are a normal part of growing up and
all children have them but still if not properly handled it
can create lot of troubles later. Often they happen for different
reasons at different ages. There are no magic cures, but there
are some successful and effective techniques that can help.
Toddlers throw tantrums for many reasons-some big, some small.
These tantrums might sometimes take you by surprise and sometimes
it will be predictable. Toddlers have tantrums because they
get frustrated very easily and have very little patience.
They throw tantrums when their demands are not met immediately
and the mistake that most parents commit is fall into this
trap. Most toddlers still do not talk much and therefore they
have trouble asking for things and expressing their feelings.
Toddlers also have very few problem-solving skills. Tantrums
are most likely to happen when toddlers are hungry, exhausted,
or overexcited. If parents give in to demands, tantrums may
begin to occur with greater frequency.
to handle a tantrum
never resort to spanking and screaming. Spanking, or screaming
at your child tends to make the tantrum even worse instead
before you act
Calm yourself first and think for some time and then decide
how you will handle the tantrum. Do not take hasty steps,
which you might repent later on.
Try to get your child's attention focused on something else.
If your child is playing with some important thing and screams
when you take away something unsafe (like your purse) offer
something else to play with. This technique works brilliantly
them calm down first
Avoid trying to talk or reason with a screaming child. It
doesn't work! Take your child to a quiet, private place
to calm down. ! Stay nearby until your child calms down.
Then you can talk and explain things to her gently and have
a discussion about her behaviour. Use this opportunity to
teach your child acceptable ways to handle anger and difficult
your child's tantrums will also help control the situation.
Just ignore the tantrum and go about doing your work. If
staying in the same room with a screaming child makes you
uncomfortable, leave the room. If necessary, turn on the
radio and lock yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes.
and reassure your child
They need your love and understanding. Tantrums scare most
kids and they are generally shaken up after the whole episode.
So do not be strict on them. They need to know that you
do not approve of their behaviour, but at the same time
assure them that you love them. Understanding and curing
tantrums Every child will throw up tantrums. It is a normal
part of growing up. But if tantrums seem to be happening
often, you might consider the following suggestions.
to find out the reason of the tantrum
Study your child's tantrum. Especially where and why it
happens? Who is normally involved in it? What exactly happens
before the tantrum? Keeping a watch on these things will
help you understand the nature and source of your child's
tantrum and will give you an idea as to how to stop it.
strict and composed
If your child throws up a tantrum before going to bed don't
give in to his tantrum and offer real choices. Instead of
saying "Would you like to take your nap?" say "its nap time
Give your child warning before
making him stop what he is doing. If you are in a park and
it is time to go home say "We are going to leave the park
and go home in a few minutes," This will not take him by
surprise and he can concentrate on the activities he is
going to do back at home.
fight and argue with your child over trivial and
small things. Say "No" only to things that are really important.