SEXUAL PLEASURE AFTER CHILDBIRTH
there will be changes in a woman's sexuality. There will be
physical as well as emotional changes in her. She will be
extremely exhausted and sleep-deprived. Her pelvic nerves
and muscles may also have been damaged during delivery, lowering
genital sensitivity. Breastfeeding lowers levels of estradial
(the hormone responsible for keeping the urogenital tract
lubricated and supple) thereby decreasing her urge for sexual
pleasure. And it also raises the prolactin hormone, which
suppresses sexual desire and lowers testosterone. Thus post
childbirth sex maybe not be the first thing on her mind, nor
is it going to be for the immediate ensuing hours and days
ahead but at some point it will come definitely come back
in. We have tried to explain by way of this article all the
possible problems faced by couples in their sex life after
pregnancy and tried to find solutions for those problems in
order to make your sex life pleasurable and fulfilling.
faced by couples in their sex-life after childbirth
It is normally
seen that mothers are too tired nursing, feeding and looking
after the baby that they totally neglect their partners
who in turn feel undesired and as a result of that he
may withdraw, causing the woman to shut down further.
Due to the
physical changes in the mother caused due to pregnancy,
mothers start feeling undesired themselves and they shun
away from their partner. Men also are less aroused as
a result of which sex becomes an absolute negative factor
in their life.
be changes in a woman's sexuality after the birth of the
baby. There will be some temporary changes in the shape
and sensitivity of your vagina (these can be helped by
having your gynaecologist teach you how to do "Kegel"
exercises); and sometimes permanent changes in the shape
and "look" of the external genitals. This also causes
problems in sexual pleasure.
Tips to bring back sexual pleasure in your life after childbirth.
Childbirth brings in lots of responsibility. It also has quite
an impact on your body and thus you need some time to bring
back your organs to normalcy. Guys you have to help out your
wife and be very supportive, loyal and co-operative. After
childbirth, there is going to be a lot of tenderness so the
first time you make love, take it slow and steady. The episiotomy
site might not have had the chance to heal over completely
and even if your stitches have long since healed, it can take
literally months for the soreness in the area to clear up.
Therefore go-slow and the slower you take it the better.
Lubrication is essential
Normally lubrication might not be a problem but after childbirth
poses as a big problem because the female body is producing
different hormones and can dry up the 'vaginal secretions'
which in turn makes things quite dry and uncomfortable because
of the friction while making love. If this does happen to
you, you can get water-soluble lubricants at the Chemist.
In severe cases of dryness please consult your doctor.
Experimenting is quite fun
Even if you are a strict missionary person, you must experiment
because that position is the worst for creating pressure on
the tender area. Try experimenting in a variety of positions
which make intercourse as comfortable as possible, you never
know you might find some positions that you like and carry
on doing it. After all experimenting is always fun and causes
lots of excitement in your sex life. Tried and trusted post-baby
positions are the woman on top, sitting, on the table and
Accept the physical changes
There will be physical changes that both the partners will
have to accept and get used to. For example if it has been
a vaginal birth then sex will be a little different coz the
vagina will be a little loose. Over time the vaginal muscles
will tone it down a bit but it will never be 'as it was' before.
It's not uncommon at all for breasts to start leaking during
intercourse even if you have just fed the little one just
before you started so don't be alarmed. Avoid missionary position
because weight on top of the breasts can very easily start
the breasts 'leaking'.
Take advice of your doctor
It is recommended that you talk warmly and openly about your
sexual needs with your doctor and take their advice. Be sure
to tell your doctor that you intend to continue and improve
your sexual relationship after childbirth. If he advises you
against sexual intercourse, always ask "Why?" and "For how