SEX DURING PREGNANCY
most women and their partners, pregnancy brings changes in
the sexual relationship. You may find that pregnancy complements
your sense of sexuality, making you feel more feminine and
desirable or, on the other hand, you may feel awkward and
unattractive. Many women have less sexual desire during the
first three and last three months of pregnancy. Early in the
pregnancy you may be plagued by nausea and vomiting, fatigue
and tender breasts while later in the pregnancy your protruding
abdomen may make intercourse uncomfortable. During the second
three months of pregnancy, however, you may feel full of energy
and have a renewed interest in lovemaking.
women think that they should abstain from sex during pregnancy,
but that is not the case at all. That's because neither intercourse
nor orgasm pose a threat to a healthy pregnant woman or her
baby. The thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard
the baby against infection while the baby is well protected
by the fluid-filled amniotic sac and strong uterine muscles.
In fact, many couples continue their sex life right up to
their baby's delivery. With a normal pregnancy, you can keep
doing it right up until your water breaks. However you should
check with your doctor first if you're having any problems
with your pregnancy or you notice any unusual symptoms during
or following intercourse, such as pain or discharge or there
is abnormal vaginal bleeding or you have a history of miscarriages.
Most doctors will advise against intercourse if you have:
Threat of miscarriage; an incompetent
cervix or a dilated cervix; cramping;
unexplained vaginal bleeding or discharge; presence of any
sexually transmitted disease. In this case, abstain from sex
until you and your mate have been treated and you are both
free of the disease.
during pregnancy feels great for some women while for some
it is not so good. This is because they are just too tired
or nauseated to make love, especially in the first trimester.
Some women experience cramping during intercourse because
the cervix descends lower into the vagina during pregnancy.
Due to the increased vascularity of the cervix, some women
may also have a small amount of spotting after sex. Some women
feel unattractive and because of this their desire for sex
wanes while some women feel sexier than ever and for them
sex becomes more enjoyable. There is a positive side to sex
during pregnancy. The hormones of pregnancy, especially progesterone,
cause increased vascularity in the vagina and external genitalia.
For some, this is a pleasurable sensation and may actually
make it easier to achieve orgasm.
positions while you are pregnant:
Following are a few time-tested positions for making love
- Get on
top of your partner. This way you will put no pressure on
your uterus and will also be able to control penetration.
- Have sex
in a sitting position by sitting on your husband's lap on
his study chair.
- Lie sideways.
- Try spoon
position i.e., lie side by side in a spoon position, which
will allow only shallow penetration.
- Also try
out new positions that will make you comfortable.
if you and your partner do not have strong sexual needs throughout
the pregnancy, you may have an increased need for physical
affection, for gentle touching, cuddling, holding and hugs.
You will want to nurture feelings of emotional closeness as
well by spending time talking together, sharing feelings,
and experiencing the pregnancy together.