| SECOND
CHILD: ARE YOU READY
There
are many women who never plan a family and they get pregnant
as soon as they are out of a child birth. While there are
others who like to do proper planning and give it second child
a thought only after their first child is ready to go to kindergarten.
Well all this depends on personal choice and preference. While
it is not possible to say as to when a woman should think
of having another baby, these are a few things which should
be considered before planning for another baby.
What studies
suggest:
Researchers have tried to tackle this question and according
to studies it is best for you and for your baby to wait for
22-34 months after birth of the first child. Doctors found
that babies conceived less than six months after the birth
of a previous child are 40 per cent more likely to be born
prematurely or underweight. Doctors suggest that a mother's
body may need that much time to recover from the stress and
replenish all the nutrients she lost as a result of the first
pregnancy.
How
old is your other child:
If you have a child who needs continuous care and attention
then it is not advisable to go for a second child. Pregnancy
and post pregnancy, a woman undergoes lots of physical stress
and pregnancy literally tires her out. Under such circumstances
if you get pregnant gain your body will not be able to cope.
Therefore it is always advisable to wait till you first child
is say 3 or 4 yrs and is able to take care of himself. Studies
suggest older your other children, the better. That way they've
had plenty of time with you and they can understand and even
talk about the effect another child might have. This will
in a way result in good bonding between the siblings.
Does
your partner like the idea of having another baby:
Remember baby making is a joint effort. And therefore it is
very important to know how your partner feels about having
another baby. Sit down together and discuss your points of
view. If he is not agreeable then it will not be a wise thing
to toss the birth control pills in the trash as yet. By talking
and discussing the issue you may not solve anything at that
moment but you'll have a better understanding of the issues.
What’s
your financial situation:
This is also one of the most important consideration. Though
you might argue that money isn’t everything but it is
necessary to raise a family. If having another baby is going
to create a lot of problems and your financial stability is
likely to go for a toss then you might want to postpone your
pregnancy until your financial situation is stable. It's important
to consider your work situation, too. Many women find it more
difficult to keep up with full- or even part-time work once
the second child comes along. Can you afford to stay at home
or to pay for the new baby's childcare if you want to stay
in your job? You have to take all these points into consideration
before you plan on a second child.
How
will another child change your lifestyle:
You think that you are finally settled down with life, job
and kids. You even get time to spend with you husband and
everything is perfect. Well now think are you ready to give
up all of this. These are all important considerations when
you're thinking of having another. Remember, a newborn will
take over your life. You will have to forget about the job
and your perfect lifestyle. Consider whether you have the
time and energy an infant requires, and whether your children
are ready to deal with the reality of a baby in the house.
The
age factor:
Age is also an important factor for women who are planning
to have more than one child. The older a woman gets fertility
level drops. Many women can still get pregnant in their early
40s but fertility rates do drop dramatically once you reach
35. Thus if you are under 30 and you don't have any health
problems that could make conception difficult, you can be
flexible with your timing. But if you are above 35 then you
obviously need to hurry. |