What is more important for parents
is to realise that teaching your child good values and virtues
and disciplining him is something that is not only curtail
and important but also will be helpful to him in the long
run. Through discipline a child learns how to behave, to
respect others and to follow rules and regulations. Discipline
teaches children to be patient and composed, to cooperate
and share. It teaches children to take care of themselves
and makes them confident to face the world.
When you discipline your child
do not be too rude and harsh on him. Discipline is not a
synonym for punishment. Discipline means showing children
positive alternatives and an opportunity to see how their
actions affect others. Be patient and wise.
Establish fair, simple rules
and state them clearly. This will help your child realise
that he has to abide by the rules and if he doesn't he will
have to face the consequences of his actions. Make the rules
clear and simple for him to understand.
While disciplining your kid
always use words rather than actions. This is important
because if you hit them then it is very much possible for
them to think that this is the way it has to work and this
attitude can make them aggressive and violent.
Try to negotiate and discuss
the problem instead of hitting or forcing your kid to do
something. By this you will make your kid realise that he
is an important member of the family and that he has a choice
too rather than being forced into something.
Don't be too nagging and dominating.
Sometimes it is best to let go of small issues and leave
your kid to himself. Give him time to sort out his own problems
rather than being mad at him and doing things the adult
Reward your kid when he does
something good and praise him. Positive reinforcement is
the best technique for encouraging desirable behaviour.
Kids are unquestionably more motivated to do the right thing
in order to get a reward and to avoid punishment. Rewards
are not bribes; they are ways to show a child that she is
doing a good job and you appreciate it.
Parents always have the option
of using natural consequences to drive home a point and
discipline the child without using force or hard means.
Natural consequences help children learn to take responsibility
for their actions and help parents realize that the long-term
gain will be worth the short-term discomfort. For example,
the 8-year-old who is refusing to eat what you made for
dinner and is adamant can be told to eat what is offered
or nothing. One night without a full meal will not deprive
the child nutritionally in the long run, but it will teach
him that there are limits to sudden impulses and he can
cannot always get things his way.
Parents should work hard to
frame things in a positive way rather than negative way.
Using " no " always is not a very good idea. It doesn't
help a child learn what will get her a "yes." Positive statements
teach children what is appropriate. It is not enough to
tell a child what not to do; you should also teach them
a better alternative.
The last important thing that
you have to remember is that treat your child with respect.
Make him realise that you love him and he can turn to you
if he needs anything. Don't let him feel lonely and depressed.
Try to understand him and love him.