PARENTING CHILD BULLYING
one child or several repeatedly tease, taunt, threaten or
physically abuse another child - happens to children of all
ages.But bullying is more than just children fighting. It
is continued abuse that can leave lifelong scars.
cuts across all socio-economic classes and occurs in cities
and suburbs. Children in grades 2-6 are twice as likely to
be bullied as those in grades 7-9 because the children in
earlier grades are younger and weaker, according to a study
of approximately 150,000 children, bullying is more violent
in the older grades.
of bullying are likely to be anxious, passive, sensitive,
physically weak children who feel they deserve the abuse.
He followed victims from grades 6-9 through age 23 and found
that, as adults, they were susceptible to depression and poor
should be alert to signs of possible bullying, since children
may hide problems and be unwilling to talk about being bullied
because they're afraid the bully will punish them. Children
may be victims when they:
- are reluctant to go to school,
- suddenly do poorly in class,
- don't invite classmates home
- are moody and have sudden displays
of temper, or
- ask for extra school supplies
or lunch money (which is often extorted by a bully).
parent who steps in to help a child may be accused of being
overprotective, so many parents wonder to what degree they
should let children work these problems out themselves. But
experts say that bullied children have difficulty dealing
with the abuse themselves and need adult guidance. When a
child complains about a bully, parents should:
- take the complaints seriously,
- role-play with the child on
solutions to volatile situations,
- keep a journal of the abuse,
- discuss incidents with teachers
or school staff,
- work out a plan of action with
the school, and
- monitor the plan's effectiveness.
prevent children from being chronic victims of bullies, parents
should foster their kids' self-esteem and find ways to help
the child avoid the victimizing situations.