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PARENTING
DISCIPLINE
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doubts about it, toddlers are very difficult to manage. At
times, you will feel like they really know how to head for
trouble and how to always end up in one. Many parents can
recite nerve-racking stories of toddlers ending up in an emergency
room. On top of that they have so few skills to communicate
and solve problems. The key to disciplining your toddler includes
love, understanding, patience and reflex!
As mentioned above toddlers have very limited skills of communication
and therefore it is hard to understand them. Though toddlers
can say a few words which of course can mean different things
but still they like to express themselves by crying, grunting,
pointing like babies which makes it all the more difficult
to understand what they want. Toddlers just like babies love
to be held, comforted, talked top and played with. But during
all these times a parent should always teach them discipline
because this coaching at the right time is going to help them
in the wrong run. It is the duty of the parent to imbibe virtues
in the child at this proper stage.
Following are a few things that parents will find helpful
in disciplining their toddler:
Set a good example
This is the first step towards disciplining your kid. Be sure
to demonstrate a good habit before toddlers because they are
very good imitators. They will not understand that what they
imitate from you is good or bad but they will do it because
they see you doing it. So if you want your toddler to have
good eating habits then demonstrate how to do it and talk
to them about it. They may not fully understand you but they
will definitely get an idea how to do things in a specific
way.
Do not spank them
Certain times you might get angry with your kid and at times
you may feel like hitting them but believe me spanking is
not the solution. They are too small to understand good from
bad. Though toddler's respond well to physical actions like
holding or restraining them, touching them by the arm, picking
them up but spanking will not help and studies have proved
that spanking, hitting can lead to your child growing up to
be physically aggressive and out of control. Therefore spanking
is not the way to discipline your child.
Isolate your child when required
There are certain times when explaining, warning or any kind
of negotiation is not helpful and at that time what parents
ought to do is remove or isolate your child. For example if
your front door is open and your child is planning to explore
the surroundings what you need to do is either hold him, pick
him up or put him in the crib for sometime. Though you will
be met with loud protests but this safety measure will keep
your child safe.
Divert and Redirect
This two-fold tactics is very important in disciplining your
child. If your child is doing something unacceptable then
try to divert her/his attention by dong something else like
playing some other game or watching cartoons together. At
the same time tell your kid that what he is doing is wrong
and what he should not do. For example if your kid is throwing
a heavy article like the paper weight at the glass then divert
his attention by playing a game which he likes and then teach
him that "paper weight is not to be thrown at the glass. If
you want to throw anything throw the waste paper in the dustbin".
This will not only teach him what is right but will also redirect
his activity in to more acceptable and constructive situation.
Ignore
By ignoring the child's unacceptable act you can teach him
that what he is doing is wrong and will not be accepted by
you. This can be effective in some situations with older toddlers.
Withhold all attention, praise, and support and pay absolutely
no attention. Without the desired attention, children eventually
quit whatever they're doing. This however requires a lot of
patience.
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