you think that your sex life is in the pits and there is nothing
exciting anymore? Well in that case the one and only solution
is to try out new ways of lovemaking. Believe me sexual pleasure
comes in an astonishing range of flavours - and everyone has
a favorite. But we cheat ourselves - and our men - if we insist
on always going back for more of the same. Thus a new style
may be just what you need to boost the passion meter in your
relationship. Try the following lovemaking techniques and you will be
surprised with the results.
Well don't be shocked. Spiritual lovemaking is very enjoyable
and it gives you lot of peace, happiness and compassion. When
a couple comes together in bed with that deep sense of appreciation
for the sheer fact of having each other, it feels like a spiritual
awakening - or reawakening. This kind of spiritual awakening
can develop during sexual intimacy when everything just feels
very special and very loving. But the question is how do you
actually create it? One way is to be open, to notice small
moments. And they don't have to be sexual. For example there
are moments in your life when you feel proud of your kids
or your spouse or you are happy because of something your
kids/spouse did. What you can do is recall that moment while
you're cuddling later in bed. Tell him how you feel just then,
and let the same feeling flow into lovemaking.
Lovemaking with warm and tender touch will work wonders in
the bedroom. Tender sex is a lovely way of lovemaking, because
it is gentle and slow, with light touches. It might incorporate
massage, oils, and lots of warm kissing. It can be the prologue
to an intensely exciting sexual experience or it can be an
end in itself. Actually tender lovemaking is a good way to
reconnect after a heated argument between the spouses. Gently
move your hands to where you want your partners hands to feel.
Show him how to touch you. Example: by stroking, squeezing.
Whichever way you like it just show him/ her.
Lustful sex is sometimes fun and quite enjoyable as well as
relieving. It can be selfish, selfless, an itch that must
be scratched - right now, right here, and please hurry up
about it. Some women enjoy lustful sex even after many years
of marriage coz there are times when it feels good to have
a quickie. There are times when you might be feeling lust
crazed but your husband is not in the mood, well believe me
your lust is what will amp up his mood in seconds. Try it,
it is great.
To turn up the volume on your sex life you must try living
out some of those sexual fantasies of yours. You should be
ready yourself to do something new and exciting. The brain
is the most influential sex organ we've got, so optimize it.
Sometimes it's a conscious process. You can fantasize about
making love with your partner in a tent by the beach. You
can fantasies about your partner- great eyes, hair, hand,
clef or cleavage-whatever turns you on. You can watch cassettes
and X-rated videos together. Another thing that you can do
is living your fantasies. Do what you always dreamt of doing
but never tried it out of shyness and hesitation. Another
thing you can do is making a sexual wish list. Couples who
are kinky in the bedroom know that a taste for novelty, openness
to invention, a dash of daring, works wonders. Your fantasies
don't have to be sexual; in fact, it's better to keep them
whims, wild thoughts that need not be tame. The mysterious
of these waking dreams is what keeps them fresh and exciting.
Being in the "mood" doesn't always mean strictly serious business.
A couple that makes love out of laughter is willing to take
themselves lightly. Thus you need to be able to laugh with
each other when you're interrupted or someone's leg gets caught
in the sheet - when the unexpected occurs in bed. You have
to be able to tease each other in a caring way. Thus being
silly and funny while lovemaking peps up the mood. Couples
who can laugh at their own blunders can really enjoy each
other. Sex can be humourous; I mean let it be fun and funny.