is premature ejaculation caused?
men have experienced this problem at some time in their
life. Premature ejaculation was once thought to be caused
by drugs or certain infections such as urethritis, but
popular wisdom suggests it is more psychological in
nature. The exact cause of the condition, however, still
remains a mystery.
ejaculation often occurs during the first experiences
with sex, and in this case is most commonly attributed
to anxiety. The majority of men gradually learn to control
their orgasm, and have no lasting effect. Some men will
develop a longer-term anxiety toward sex, which can
cause a prolonged experience with premature ejaculation.
behavior is also a factor. The longer the period since
last ejaculating, the quicker young men typically reach
orgasm. Younger men tend to ejaculate more quickly than
older men, as experience seems to be associated with
can I do to delay ejaculation?
and Johnson method
best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning
how to identify and control the sensations leading up
to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson method does just
that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great
deal of patience and practice, but is very effective.
Follow the steps below.
you have an idea about your point of no return
you should be able to direct stimulation from your partner
leading up to orgasm. The best way to practice this
method is with a caring lover, although you can try
to prepare by yourself. With your partner, engage in
non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex)
and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just
before ejaculation. At that point, signal your partner
to stop (often this is done with a light squeeze or
sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection.
Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of
it. You should practice these steps for several days
before you attempt intercourse.
you are ready to try intercourse, lay on your back
and direct your partner to slowly allow you to penetrate.
As soon as you feel that you are about to climax,
signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward.
Relax for a bit, then begin again. You should soon
be able to control your ejaculation and enjoy having
the method is extremely effective, it could take
weeks before you get it just right. Remember, be
patient and try not to put too much pressure on
the situation. If you dont get it the first
time, shrug it off and remember that you are working
towards something that takes time. If you still
have trouble, dont hesitate to contact a sex
therapist for guidance.
squeeze technique is really just a variation of the
Masters and Johnson method, except that the assisting
partner squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before
the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm.
The squeeze forces blood out of the penis
and reduces the erection. You may want to use the squeeze
technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone is
creams are products which purport to lessen
the sensations felt by men during intercourse so that
they can last longer. The limitation that many men feel
these creams have is that they make intercourse less
pleasurable by decreasing stimulation.
Masturbation is a technique
used by many young men to increase their level of control.
It is thought that masturbation before sexual activity
will lessen the amount of desire a man feels thereby
increasing control. This technique is not very effective,
however, as level of arousal is only part of what contributes
to the condition.
Condoms are an effective
means of reducing the amount of stimulation experienced
during sex. Some men find that a condom helps them prevent
premature ejaculation by lowering their arousal. If
one condom does not decrease the stimulation enough,
then put on one more. Condoms provide excellent protection
against STDs and pregnancy, so theyre certainly
worth a try.
Sexual positions can affect a man's ability
to control his ejaculation. The typical missionary
position (on top of your partner) is not the best position
while attempting to control ejaculation. Try laying
on your back, allowing the partner to control copulation.
In this position you are more relaxed, and can guide
your partner easily.