Many women experience problems achieving an orgasm.
According to reports only 10-15 % women have infact
experienced an orgasm. While some have never experienced
orgasm, and some say they are not sure whether they
have had an orgasm. The key to achieving an orgasm is
the brain, which must be immersed in sexy thoughts.
You have to concentrate on what you are doing instead
of letting your mind float away to other things. Many
factors can cause or be influencing many women's ability
to achieve an orgasm.
A few of the factor are listed
You may be afraid that you won't orgasm. So you
don't even bother trying and end up completely repressing
your sexual response.
of the reasons is the physical factors, such as
fatigue, if your body and mind are tired and you
too much as to whether you will have an orgasm or
not or about how aroused you are or aren't, what
your partner thinks of you, whether he can keep
the movement going also makes it difficult to climax.
You think too much, instead of focusing on the sensations
of what's going on sexually.
The other factor can be the length of time since
last orgasm. In order to reach climax it is important
that you have regular sex. The more time that passes
between sexual encounters, the harder it is for
a woman to become aroused, and less likely to have
Pressure and tension also can be a cause. You might
be afraid or ashamed of asking your partner to stimulate
you the way it arouses you and as a result of which
you end up being unsatisfied. Also you're afraid
that if your partner concentrates on your pleasure
only, you'll feel too much pressure to come, leaving
you incapacitated sexually.
The other reason is if you rush into the act. Thus
if you rush into sex with your partner, you're not
leaving yourself enough time to get fully aroused
to climax and your orgasm ends up getting pushed
aside during sex.
The other factors hampering climax are the psychosocial
factors, including mood, relation to partner, activity,
expectations, and feelings about the experience.
Family, religious and moral values often shape beliefs
about sex. You've always thought of sex as something
dirty or something that you shouldn't enjoy. The
guilt then gets in the way of your true enjoyment
of the experience.
Low self confidence and feelings about self may
be opposing efforts to feel good about sex. Some
women are so ashamed of their body that they are
just not comfortable while making love. And this
is one factor why they don't enjoy sex and experience
of the factors is also the past trauma or past relationship
which play an important role in relaxing yourself
while making love and enjoying the whole experience.
that you can do to achieve a satisfying sexual experience
The key to achieve a satisfying climax is your mind
and brain. You have to relax and focus completely on
the sexual act. Now assuming that your doctor has ruled
out medical reasons for an orgasm problem the following
are the things that will help you and open the door
to sexual satisfaction and pleasure.
is very important because you know your body and you
know what stimulates and turns you on. Therefore you
must speak up. You must guide your partner so that he
knows what you like and this will help you experience
orgasm. Also get in the habit of talking about all facets
of your relationship with one another. Unresolved conflicts
can put the damper on sex and orgasm.
Let go of all your inhibitions: Fear,
embarrassment, shyness, mental block etc, all these
factor keep you away from having an orgasm. Thus you
have to have to keep your mind clear and open and enjoy
sex instead depriving yourself of this pleasure.
Know your body: You
have to be sufficiently aroused to reach orgasm, and
to get sufficiently aroused, you need to know what makes
you feel good. The best way to find out is to explore
your body. To start, set aside 20 minutes when you know
that you won't be interrupted. Take a relaxing bath
and then see yourself naked in a mirror. Put some lubricant
on your finger and touch your private parts. Touch your
vaginal lips, your clitoris and your vagina. Find out
which areas are most sensitive and what kind of touch
feels good. Thus practice touching yourself in ways
that heighten your arousal to the point of orgasm.
Try new positions:
Trying out new positions also help in achieving orgasm.
To achieve an orgasm your g-spot needs stimulation and
hence try a position that will stimulate this spot leading
to an orgasm. Thus by trying a lot of different positions,
you'll find the ones most likely to lead to orgasm.
NOTE: For some women, difficulty
in experiencing orgasm is the result of physical problems,
chemical or hormonal imbalance, drug side effects or
even previous psychological trauma. Such situations
may require more extensive sex therapy or treatment.
Discuss your problems with your doctor or therapist.