Everyone can orgasm, but not everyone does. Coming'
isn't all that easy - if you're a woman! Nearly all
MEN can climax without difficulty, but women just aren't
built that way. For a man sexual intercourse alone,
that is, penetration of a woman's vagina by a man's
penis may be sufficient to climax. But it very often
is not enough to make a woman reach orgasm.
What is it?
Orgasm is the pinnacle of sexual passion. It is the
moment of intense pleasure, which results into feeling
relaxed and at ease. The female orgasm lasts a few seconds,
followed by a feeling of relaxation and pleasure. Continued
stimulation may also result in further orgasms, which
though is difficult for females of certain age group.
Basically there are two types of orgasms that women
experience, based on the two different zones of stimulation.
The first is a clitoral orgasm, wherein the clitoris
is stimulated by lightly touch or stroking it. The second
type of orgasm is a vaginal orgasm. This comes from
pressure being applied to the "G" spot, usually by the
tip of the man's penis. The "G" spot is located on the
anterior wall of the vagina, about 2 inches from the
opening. Both these experiences are different and women
who have experienced both types of orgasms know the
difference. However the fact is very few women reach
orgasm solely as a result of the penis penetrating the
vagina; it's more likely to happen through stimulation
(touching/rubbing/kissing) of the clitoris - the highly
sensitive bump located at the top of the vaginal lips.
are helpful to reach climax by stimulating the "G" spot:
1. Woman on top of man
2. Woman lying on her stomach, with man on top, entering
her vagina from behind.
1. Sexual frequency. In order to reach climax it is
important that you have regular sex. The more time that
passes between sexual encounters, the harder it is for
a woman to become aroused, and less likely to have an
2. Another important thing is you should be relaxed
and tension free. For a woman to get the most out of
the sexual encounter, she must be comfortable with the
surroundings and also with the relationship. Thus orgasm
is impossible in a situation where there is tension,
or lack of trust in the marriage.
3. Also what is important is a understanding and caring
partner who know how to stimulate and arouse you and
who helps you reach climax.
Remember one thing that to reach orgasm it is very important
that your man co-operates with you and understands you
and your body. Therefore don't feel shy to tell him
how to make love to you and what arouses you and touching,
kissing, stroking which part of your body will make
you climax. Therefore next time you make love guide
him to help you reach orgasm. However following are
the things men need to know.
her that she's marvellous, sexy and beautiful.
Remember that most women need stimulation of
the clitoris. Touching/kissing/stroking will
help reach orgasm.
her oral sex. Most women adore this and some claim
that they cannot come unless a man 'goes down'
her breasts or her sensitive spots. A few women climax
through breast fondling alone or simply by stroking
their sensitive spots.
be too proud to ask her to show you what she wants.
you come before her, don't stop there but try to help
her climax too by kissing and stimulating her.
to provide an atmosphere of love, romance, security
can you do to help yourself ?
A woman who experiences no or few orgasms can learn
to bring herself to climax, over time with little patience
and self-stimulation. Patience is needed because it
will take time to learn the spots, the touches, feelings
and thoughts that will arouse you and continue to arouse
you to the point of climax. At first the techniques
can be practiced alone, but then with your partner since
he too has to be taught how to make love to you.
Causes for Orgasm Problems
When alone explore your body - touch and stoke yourself
in the way you would like to be caressed by your
lover - learn and enjoy those things that really
Once you know what stimulates you and helps you
reach climax share these experiences with your partner;
guide him around those parts of your body that aroused
you when you stimulated them - let him find other
ways to arouse you too.
your partner stimulate your clitoris during foreplay,
when you find yourself on the brink of orgasm after
your partner has touched and caressed your clitoris,
move straight on to intercourse, with you or your
partner continuing to stimulate your clitoris.