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Body
language says it all. When couples hug, touch, smile, make
love and even fight their body language speaks volumes about
how their relationship is doing. Learn to read between the
lines and save your relationship if it has lost the passion
and life. Learn what your body language in some everyday situations
might say about your marriage, and how to be sure you're giving
your man all the attention and love.
The Hug and a
Kiss
Good signs
The perfect kiss would be to kiss with full body. The kiss
should be a soft kiss that should clearly say that I love
you and I missed you.
Warning
signals
Kissing with hard, closed lips communicates tension and avoidance
of intimacy. Hugging with most of your bodies separated is
also a sign of obligation, not intimacy.
Show
your love to him
Remember that you should not give a wrong message when you
hug and kiss him. Therefore even if you are busy and pre-occupied
give a warm kiss and hug your husband hello with the same
enthusiasm with which you greet your kids. And be sure to
follow it up with some generous eye contact.
Dining
Out
Good signs
Don't sit like strangers at a restaurant. Happy couples are
the ones sitting side-by-side or catty-corner, maintaining
their closeness even if several kids are also at the table.
If the table is small enough, sitting across from each other
can also be intimate. And no matter how hectic dinner is,
the couple continually acknowledges each other's presence
with a glance, a smile and touch.
Warning
signals
There is no closeness or communication. And take a look at
your paces. You may still be sitting together, but if you're
only halfway through your dinner and he has already finished,
this clearly shows that something is missing. Also placement
matters. If you sit far away from your husband then that shows
that your relationship is not really working.
Show
your love to him
Change your seat. Move the high chair so that the baby is
between you; this way you can feed her and look at your husband
at the same time. And be sure to catch your husband's eye
and smile every few minutes.
Having an Argument
Good signs
When happily married couples fight, they look enraged, but
they also look emotionally engaged. Their torsos are facing
each other, and they make frequent eye contact. Their body
language says, "I'm not going to run away just because
we're having an argument. We love each other, so let's resolve
this now."
Warning
signals
Signs that your relationship is not working out is as follows:
If your husband is baring his teeth or jabbing his finger
at your chest, he may be unconsciously trying to threaten
you into submission.
If is not listening and he's turning his body away, wearing
a glazed expression or darting his eyes around the room.
Looking down your nose at your partner sends the message that
you think he's inferior, while rolling your eyes and crossing
your arms says, "I'm not going to listen to what you
have to say, because it's worthless."
Show
your love to him
If you want to resolve an argument, your body language has
to say, "I love you, and I'm listening." Start by
taking a few deep breaths. Next, make your body language friendlier.
Align your body with your husband's, drop your arms, lean
toward him and nod your head. If he's not being attentive
while you speak, gently draw him in with a touch on the arm
or by holding his hand until you make eye contact. This is
especially important when you're trying to reach an agreement.
Should his body language grow aggressive, gently lay a hand
on his arm, look into his eyes and say, "I really wish
we weren't arguing." Don't underestimate the power of
this gesture. Many men respond aggressively when they feel
anxious, threatened or afraid. A calming movement from you
lets him know you're as unhappy to be arguing as he is, and
that you're with him -- not against him.
Taking
a Walk
Good signs
Loving couples walk in step, a synchronization that makes
them feel totally in tune.
Warning
signals
If you are lagging behind and he is totally unaware, it can
be an expression of hostility, or at least a lack of connection.
Show
your love to him
Holding hands will help get your feet in step with each other.
Have your children hold your outside hands so that you and
your husband stay connected in between them. And give his
hand an occasional squeeze.
Watching TV
Good signs
While watching TV, you can tell if a couple are in love by
how they sit together. Even if a happily married couple is
sitting at opposite ends of the couch, they still keep in
touch with frequent glances, and their bodies will tend to
be angled toward each other.
Warning
signals
With unhappy couples, that sense of connection is simply missing.
Their bodies tend to face away from each other and instead
of using the commercial breaks to talk; they try to escape
-- by getting up, opening a magazine or flipping channels
with the remote.
Show
your love to him
Be sure your own body is angled toward your husband's. Talk
and communicate with him and make him feel that you are there
and you love him.
Making Love
Good signs
When happily married couple make love, more than just their
bodies meet. Eye contact is the key and if you have no eye
contact then there is nothing.
Warning
signals
Eyes clamped shut, and stiffness, especially in the neck and
the shoulders, communicate coldness and anxiety.
Show
your love to him
Don't shut your eyes totally. Keep in mind that your husband
is desperate to know if he's giving you pleasure, and he wants
to be able to see it in your eyes.
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