Alcoholic Husband

Alcoholism is defined as a primary, chronic disease with genetic, psychosocial and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations. For an alcoholic drinking becomes the focal point, the hub, in the wheel of life. Over time, the negative consequences of drinking may become apparent by those personally associated with the alcoholic. However, in the mind of the alcoholic, drinking has become the solution to the mounting problems in his life. Even when the alcoholic can no longer deny the relationship between the negative consequences in his life to his drinking, he will continue to drink. This will then create problems in his life and in the life of his loved ones. Heavy and chronic drinking can harm every organ and system in the body and it is the third leading cause of preventable mortality.

Alcoholism is a universal phenomenon. Down the centuries, numberless women across the globe have been coping with husbands who come home drunk, bash their wives and children and make everyone's life miserable. However surprisingly most women timidly adjust to their husbands' ways rather than raising their voices in protest. Maybe they have their own difficulties and ways of dealing with the problem but if your alcoholic husband is abusing you then it is time that you put an end to this evil and fight courageously against this addiction and save you and your family.

Guidelines for helping your alcoholic husband:

• Acquire proper attitude. It is difficult to help people who sense that you despise them and do not care for them and respect them.

• Alcoholism is an addiction to a drug. Therefore willpower is not enough; proper therapy is needed and so consult a proper rehabilitation center or counselor.

• Confront your husband with the fact of the disease, and offer a possible solution. Alcoholics never get well unless given a chance.

• Make your alcoholic husband responsible for his actions. Every time you make excuses for him or shielded him, you have just paid for the next drink.

• Use all the alcoholism resources available. It is a complex illness; it needs a network of people to treat it. Take into confidence some of your husband's closest friends (non -drinkers) and ask them to persuade your husband to relinquish the bottle. Most men brush aside the appeal of their wives but pay heed to their friends' advices.

• Never give up hope; never be discouraged. Even if your alcoholic husband does not recover at this time, the seed has been planted. It may bear fruit sometime in the future.

• Alcoholism is a family disease; all family members are affected; all need treatment.

• Do not leave him alone. Always keep supervision on him. Accompany your husband to all parties and gatherings to keep a vigilant eye on him. If he is under supervision he will not to exceed the limits.

• Try to find the root cause of the problem. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with him in order to gauge the root cause of his addiction. Once the causes are discovered, ways and means could be devised to solve the related problems.

• Keep in mind that an individual cannot give up drinking overnight. Alcohol intake needs to be reduced gradually. So be around, be supportive and patient and help him to reduce alcohol intake bit by bit.

• Make him aware of the pain and anguish that is being caused because of his drinking habits. Let your husband know that his drinking is not only interfering with the your ability to feel close to him, but that he is putting his children's lives and welfare at risk, too