often happens that you are just not in the mood for sex and
your husband is totally heated up. He's the one who asks for
sex and you're the one who refuses. It might be happening
because you must be tired and stressed out or you might be
bugged by his begging for sex or just that you do not want
sex. After a while, The whole process becomes so boring that
you don't even think about whether you want to say no, you
just say it - partly because you feel like he's begging, and
it bugs you. Sometimes you just give in - have sex just to
please him - and this is even worse. You feel used. He feels
like you're doing him a favour or just being nice out of pity
and he feels insulted. And most important is that neither
of you feels the least bit romantic.
Men have a biological head start when it comes to being ready
for sex while It takes a woman 15 minutes to reach the same
level of arousal that a guy reaches in three.
are a few stimulation techniques that will help you get in the mood in
Create seduction rituals that turn
you on. Try to figure out what exactly turns you on and don't
wait for your hubby to do it for you. Many women feel sexier
when they slide into a silk or satin gown or let their minds
drift in clouds of scent. Take a warm water bath, relax yourself,
give yourself sometime for preparation and do things that
turn you on.
Fuel your fantasies
There's nothing like a good, steamy
fantasy to get you in the mood. The only problem is that good
fantasies aren't so easy to generate when you're not really
interested in sex. The better way out is watch a video or
read something that will ignite you. Keep a few strategic
books in the drawer of your nightstand for help. Go to bed
early and work yourself up for the moment.
Encourage him to
Some women get bugged listening
to the whining and begging for sex especially when they are
not in the mood and their husband is turned on and demand
sex. My advice is don't let it get ugly. Be frank and tell
him that you do not like that. If he's forgotten how to seduce
you, he needs a refresher course. Encourage him to be more
verbal, to say not just 'you turn me on' and ' I want to have
sex' but tell him to be more expressive. Tell him to say why
you turn him on, how you turn him on and how he would prefer
to have sex. Encourage him to make efforts to ignite you and
this process can be fun for both of you.
Use some bargaining
If you are a workingwoman then by
the time you finish your work at the end of the day you are
absolutely tired and you feel nothing but want to go to sleep.
Your desire of sex just dies in your daily routine work -
office, kids and household chores. In such circumstances what
you can do is use your power to buy time. Trade chores with
sex and enjoy each other more than you could even imagine.
Just having your hubby help you out will turn you on.
Take matters into
your own hands
The quickest, most direct way to
make yourself want him is to ignite yourself so much that
he really wont have to do anything else but give you his best.
For this the best way is to go into the bathroom or bedroom
alone and masturbate - just enough to become aroused. Then
invite him to join you. Maybe you'll tell him what you've
been doing, and maybe you won't. But this will solve the entire
ahead and do it
just doing it will get you moving on. You feel like you don't
want sex, but once you go for it, it will be fun. In fact,
you will feel ecstatic. Sometimes, having sex even when you
don't feel like it is the best thing you can do.
Following are a few ways that will
make you feel sexy:
1) Wear lingerie that flatters you.
2) Wear sexy clothing.
3) Learn more about pleasing your partner.
4) Take a shower together.
5) Accept compliments regarding your looks and abilities.
6) Allow yourself to feel sexy.
7) Plan at least one sensual experience a week for your love.
8) Be the dominant one in your next lovemaking session.
9) Work out.