40s and you have stepped into one of the most eventful
phases of your life. With the arrival of 40s women
have to prepare themselves for menopause. With your
mind, body and soul geared in the right direction,
the fourties can usher in an absolute revolution in
your lives, taking your success to new heights, making
sex more enjoyable, and chiseling a beautiful new
women out of you. Thus with the arrival of 40s your
life takes a new turn and it is a new and exciting
However for many women 40s mean end of sex life. They
are worried about turning into one of those old and
haggard persons with loose skin, sagging breasts and
pockets of flab accumulated at wrong places and those
who are miles apart from love and romance. Women are
bogged down by the fear that menopause would mercilessly
kill their blissful life. Thus women see menopause
as a serious threat to their love life and wallow
in self-pity and remain withdrawn. A significant number
of women link the physical changes of old age with
menopause. Menopause is accepted with great difficulty
by most of the women and everyone reacts differently
to it. Some women view it as normal and experience
very little difference in their moods or bodies while
others think that it is abnormal and feel terribly
upset and disturbed.
Menopause……know the truth.
Menopause is the turning point in a women's
life. It doesn't arrive suddenly. It takes around
3-4 years beginning with peri menopause or climacteric
period when the body starts running out of eggs, ovulation
becomes sporadic, hormone levels fluctuate and the
cycle becomes unpredictable. Gradually this drop in
hormones occurs frequently and becomes permanent,
leading to a complete full stop to the menstruation
cycle. Apart from bringing a halt in the menstrual
cycle, menopause leads to other hormonal changes in
the body like baldness, vaginal dryness, sagging and
shrinking of breasts etc. However experts are of the
opinion that menopause is an individualized experience
and not all women necessarily experience the same
symptoms. With menopause there is lack of necessary
and essential hormones - estrogen and progesterone
- in the body as a result of which there occurs a
decrease in the flow of blood in the vagina, due to
which its walls become thinner and lose their elasticity.
factors cause terrible discomfort while having sex.
There may be irritation and infection too causing
serious aversion to sex. However experts believe that
this may not always be so. Sometimes even if you don't
experience the discomfort you may just not be interested
in intercourse any more. Thus menopause, all over
the world, is believed to be a cause in the decrease
in sexual activity. Women experience a marked decline
in her sexual interest leading to a decrease in her
sex drive. However according to experts although there
is a drop in the level of estrogen, the testosterone
convert itself into estrogen and the women still continues
to have the same vigour and vitality for sex. Thus
menopause in not the end of sex life.
Change your outlook. Menopause brings a
radical change in the relationship of man and woman.
Most of the women totally lack interest in sexual
activities and become withdrawn. Women gradually start
harbouring a feeling in their mind that with menopause
she has stepped into old age and that she is no longer
attractive and interesting to her man. The man might
have some misconceptions too. He tends to link the
lack of interest on his wife's part to menopause.
However the truth is that menopause is the stage when
no ovulation takes place in the woman's body and this
is related to her reproductive cycle and not her sex
drive. Thus it is all in the mind. Being attractive
or not is also not at all related to her sex drive.
Thus it is the misconception in the minds of people
that menopause is the end of sex life and it has to
to enjoy menopause.
Sex need not suffer with the onset to menopause.
In fact it could be turned into a fruitful and passionate
experience if both partners make efforts for the same.
Post menopause could in fact be the golden years of
sex. Sex after menopause can be as fulfilling, satisfying,
exciting, adventurous and pleasurable as your first
sex. It can be as beautiful as it was in the early
years. Couples can in fact have better sex life after
menopause since there is an end to menstrual cycle,
which means there is no need to take birth control
pills, and thus an added amount of time and attention
can be diverted to this beautiful act.
An important aspect of sex during menopause if foreplay.
Couples are ignorant of the role of foreplay in sex,
especially during menopause since the woman experiences
pain during sex due to inelastic vaginal walls. This
pain can however be alleviated by keeping your sex
activity regular and spending more time during foreplay.
Thus spending more time in foreplay is important to
arouse the women's desire, which further helps in
lubricating the vaginal walls. The couples can also
try out various positions that cause less pain and
Exercise for better results.
To enjoy sex women should exercise to improve
the flow of blood to the vagina so that you experience
less vaginal discomfort. Don't ever give up on sex.
Rediscover each other's body and experiment with new
techniques. Increase your time in foreplay. There
are exercises in Yoga, which help in contracting the
P.C. muscles, which lead to more pleasurable and satisfying
sex and reduce the problems of vaginal discomfort.
Besides this lubricating creams are also available
in the market that help decrease the vaginal dryness
and enhance the act. Diet also plays an important
role in menopause. There are foods that provide maximum
hormones in the body and replace the deficient ones.
Green vegetables, milk, soya bean are all rich in
hormones. Regular exercise keeps your bones healthy
and improves your body image and provides a renewed
Thus it solely depends upon the woman herself to consider
menopause as an eventful phase of life and develop
a positive outlook towards it, turning the occasion
into a wonderful opportunity. Menopause does not signal
the end of female sexuality, but it is the beginning
of a woman's individual life. It is the whole new
way of life. A fulfilling sexual relationship depends
on how well you cope with it. A good sex life and
a happy emotional partnership tend to enhance the
bond between the partners and it is only you who could
make it happen. You are worthy of a happy life and
a great sex life only if you want one. So what are
you waiting for….make this night your memorable night
and all night from now on.